Why being depressed is actually good for you?
Why being depressed is good for you? Kinda provocative and absurd question, right? A depressed state where human being feels like killing themselves how that state can be good or have any benefit for human kind. What is depressed state? A state of low mood and aversion to activity that can affect a person’s thoughts, behavior, feelings, and sense of well-being. People with a depressed mood can feel sad, anxious, empty, hopeless, helpless, worthless, guilty, irritable, angry, ashamed, or restless. All negative things.
But I’m telling you being at lowest period of your life can actually bring you a new opportunity. How did I realize that? There was a time period in my life where I could even beat people up, because of their stupidity, but instead of doing anything against them, I turned inside and kept all the negativ thoughts to myself. And of course the other party was enjoying his life. When I didn’t work, I stayed at home in my bed, thinking why I always meet hopeless people. Once I got enough of this and I went for bike tour in the middle of nowhere in Hot Springs. From the resort where I worked there was a Waterfall with 15 miles distance, and as there were no cars or public transport I hired a bicycle and I rode there, all by myself. The road was full of ups and downs, it was really hard to ride when the road was going up. The sun was shining and it was incredibly hot. After 2 hours of riding a bike on the highway, where there was nothing but car, and green grass. I stayed at the Waterfall for 2 hours and then hardly brought myself to ride home on that way again. The return took 1,5 hours, because the shuttle bus of the resort saw me struggling with the bringing the bike, so he gave me a lift back to the hotel. I’m really grateful to him.
When I arrived back home, I told this story to my friends, and all of their reaction was like “Are you crazy?” Well, not really. Looking at their reaction I felt really proud of myself. Instead of feeling sorry for myself because some idiots ruin my summer, I stood up and do something that I have always wanted to do. After coming back from that road I felt much happier and more balanced. I didn’t only felt better, but I also changed my image in other people’s eyes by changing my attitude toward problems.
It was the same when I had a lot of family problem, and instead of cursing life giving me this family, I left for the USA and I came back with a grateful mind for having this family. When my friends left Hot Springs, leaving me there as an only Asian, I felt isolated and outcasted for no reason, and I asked for second job and my day looked like starting at 3am till 6:30 and continue my work in housekeeping from 8:30 till 17:00 and sometimes I stayed for doing turning down from 17:30 till 21:00 or 22:00. It was a hard time period, but people started to recognize me and acknowledge me. Whenever I’m in a bad mood, stressed or depressed state I always need to be active and move a lot, so my mood will improve. It is very tirin being in a negative state, so it is better to move on and do something extremely fun.
Whenever I did something extraordinary that a “normal” people can’t imagine doing it, people realize me and changed their view on me. And this is what staying outside of your comfort zone mean. Is it hard? Yes, it is hard. Is it uncomfortable? Yes, it is uncomfortable. Does it pay off? Yes, it does pay off.
Why did I tell you all this, when the topic is about depressed state? This is how we behave when we are depressed. We don’t get over that state and we keep feeling sorry for ourselves, we blame life… . And we enjoy it, we don’t change. Why? Because it is uncomfortable. We think that if we are being lethargic, other people will feel sorry for ourselves and they will come and comfort us. NO!! People will come to those who is happy and cheerful, not to those, who is complaining and whining that life is terrible. Look at my situation! If when I was at the lowest point of my life and I only stayed in my room, who would know who I am?! But I went out and showed the world my strenght, and people recognized me, because I did something extraordinary and something I wanted to. And this is the benefit of being depressed.
When you are at the lowest point of your life, everything is stupid around you, then nothing matters anymore, right? If nothing matters, then why would you care what other people might think of you? If you don’t care what other would think of you, then why wouldn’t you do something that you have always wanted to do? Remember you are at lowest point of your life, you can’t go more underneath, then leave it all and do things that you have always wanted to do, but you couldn’t do before, either it is because you didn’t have time or opportunity for it.
OK, that sounds good, but what should I do? I already don’t care about anything, I can’t think of anything, what should I do?
Well, do you have a bucket list? If yes, do one point from it.
If no, then write one!
What is bucket list? Bucket list is a list that contains all of the things, activities that you want to do/try in this life. I do recommend to everyone to have a bucket list with themselves. Write down everything you want to do or experience in life. Don’t care whether it is achiveable or not, whether you can do it or not, write all of them down. And once you could accomplish any of them, tick it out.
Why should I write bucket list? How can it help me?
It helps you stay focus on things that you want to do in your life. Whatever you do, wherever you are, if you are serious about your bucket list, you will always seek for opportunity to accomplish any point in it. People might have a bucket list, but they don’t put any attention or effort to it, maybe because they don’t have time, or they just don’t have that opportunity to accomplish it. This is the reason when you are depressed, take your bucket list out and accomplish any point of it.
Remember, you don’t care about anything while you are in lethargic state. Instead of staying in bed, do one thing that is on your bucket list. The moment you can put a tick next to it, you will feel, that if you can do one of it, you can do the whole list. After accomplishing one, you will feel not only proud but you positive will come back again. It is like 2in1, you cure your state and success to do something that you dream of experience it.
So once again why being depressed is actually good for you? Because it gives you a chance, a time for you to do something that you have always wanted to do.
What do you need for that? A bucket list, that you can create with a single paper or even two, and a pen.
Now it’s your turn? Do you think this is a good way, to make the best out of your sad mood? How do you overcome negative time period? Comment below!